By Marisol Basson
It is often with envy that I look at other women and their seemingly perfect
lives and perfect families. Neatly turned out for church, family functions,
not a scuff mark on their trousers or shoes, hair and clothes perfectly in
place. Finding myself remarking; “How on earth does she do that?”
Which is exactly what I heard one of my friends’ mutter under her breath
recently, while looking directly at me. Deciding to confront her and ask her
what she meant, I realised we were all in the same boat, in one way or
another. Always peering over the garden fence, assuming the grass is greener
and better kept on the other side. However, as my friend continued to
explain, she assumed I was some kind of Wonder Woman. I immediately burst
out laughing and in between catching my breath, I asked her what she meant.
Apparently raising four kids, including a set of very young triplets, whilst
at the same time deciding to set up my own Financial Consultancy in a
recession is utter madness. I don’t think of it like that and until someone
commented on it, I hadn’t given it a second’s thought. It was just the way
things were. It gave me food for thought and made me start examining my
work, life, family time I realised that I certainly stretched a 24-hour day
way beyond its breaking point. Something which I had apparently always done.
There was no alternative. I had always worked hard, it came naturally as it
did in my whole family, especially as my father ran a restaurant and that
meant we were all running the restaurant when we were younger.
As a consultant I worked in the insurance industry for over 8 years
providing advice and new business ideas to brokers and clients alike. Then
when just a mere three years ago our world was turned upside down by a
triple blessing in the form of triplets. People started wondering how I
would cope, juggle and keep my sanity. As women we find a way to cope,
juggle and hopefully hold on to our sanity. We endure and preserve and that
is the same attitude I take with me when focusing on giving financial
One thing which has allowed me to not completely lose the plot was the fact
that we had to run a tight budget. Having triplets come into the house
certainly meant huge investments and expenditures were required. Luckily, we
managed. I realised this put me in a very fortunate position and I vowed
that I would focus on giving long-term financial advice tailor-made for each
individual’s situation. Specifically focusing on women as I believe too many
don’t take care of their financial well-being and planning for their
long-term futures. They are mostly too busy juggling everything that is
expected of them.and more.
My children need me, my husband would sometimes like to see me and spend
time with me, but I firmly believe that this shouldn’t derail a career.
That’s why I keep all these balls in the air and try to fit everything into
my life. Some people look at me in disbelief, some in shock and even a few
in admiration, however what I do and how I ‘attempt’ to manage my life is
for my own satisfaction and not to prove a point. If you discuss and
contemplate long enough, you can talk yourself out of anything. I find that
I talk myself into things rather than out of them, whilst still being there
for my kids, my husband and my career has given me the life that I want.
I now no longer look at other women and their families in envy, but in
mutual admiration. Knowing that each and every one of us is making decisions
and sacrifices to strike the balance that is right for them and in their
lives. As well as knowing that my family is always there supporting and
cheering and definitely not looking over the garden fence. Perhaps there’s a
bit of Wonder Woman in all of us.